As a wedding Officiant in Grand Rapids, we write hundreds of  wedding ceremonies for couples a year. Some couples have us write ceremonies for them because they want a personalized ceremony that reflects their love.

Here are some examples of Wedding scripts we’ve used in the past to get an idea for your Grand Rapids wedding.

Opening

Family and friends, we have gathered here today to witness and celebrate the wedding of Johnathan Richard Miller and Charlotte Leigh Durham. Let us turn our hearts and minds to the couple before us who wish to bind their lives together, in peace, and in love.

Today, Johnathan and Charlotte proclaim their love to the world and we who are gathered here rejoice with them and for them in the new life they now undertake together.

Presentation

It gives me pleasure to ask now;

Who presents this woman to be married to this man?

Eric Durham (father)  responds:      “Her mother and I do”

            Bride moves to Groom

Definition of marriage

Charlotte and Johnathan, Today in marriage, you are taking into your care and trust, the happiness of the one person in this world whom you love with all your heart. You have invited us to share in the celebration of your love. You now stand before us to take each other as husband and wife.

New experiences lie before you with opportunities to grow deeper in love with each other.  Make the meaning of the vows you are about to share with one another deepen as the years pass and seek to discover the endless possibilities of this life together.

As time passes, marriage evolves from romance to companionship, and back again to the most intimate of bonds. We marry for love. But part of the mystery that unfolds is an ever-new understanding of our partner…their greatness and their weakness, which the true-lovers will learn to compliment with their own strengths. While presenting its own unique challenges, marriage also rewards us with the love, friendship and power to overcome any obstacle that life may place before us. This sacred union is lovely in its innocence, mighty in its strength, and abundant with possibilities.

Declarations of Intent

I ask you now to declare your intent:

Johnathan, do you take Charlotte as your lawfully wedded wife, and do you promise to love, honor and cherish her.  Do you promise to console her in sorrow, to strengthen her in weakness, to share with her your happiness, and to speak the truth to her out of your love?

Johnathan replies    “I Do.”

Charlotte, do you take Johnathan as your lawfully wedded husband, and do you promise to love, honor and cherish him.  Do you promise to console him in sorrow, to strengthen him in weakness, to share with him your happiness, and to speak the truth to him out of your love?

Charlotte replies    “I Do.”

Homily

Remember also that marriage is a shared relationship, not a matter of possession.  It is a means of showing your commitment to one another, not a blind surrendering of personality.  It is not an excuse to become limited in your outlook; it is an opportunity for mutual growth.

 

In presenting yourselves to be joined in marriage, you commit yourselves to honoring and protecting one another above your separate selves, and to valuing your union above your own interests.  In so doing, you will find a wealth of love and peace not otherwise obtainable.  But with this joy comes a profound responsibility to protect the bond you share.  For it is only with continual care that your love is truly secure in the face of life’s inevitable tests.  Devotion, joy and love can grow only if you nurture them together.

 

You must appreciate each other’s talents, foster each other’s dreams, and be ever mindful of the many gifts the other offers you.  You must inspire and encourage one another.  For by strengthening your partner, you strengthen your marriage.  Be sparing in criticism and generous in praise for things well done.  Although you will at times disagree, remember to respect each others feelings, needs and wants.  And most importantly, you must continue to bring out the very best in each other.

Exchange of Vows

Knowing these things to be true, and with love in your hearts, it is time now to share your vows.

Charlotte hands her bouquet to her bridesmaid

Johnathan, as you hold Charlotte’s hands and look into her eyes, please repeat these words:

 

I, Johnathan, take you Charlotte

to be my lawfully wedded wife.

I take you just as you are,

to laugh with you in joy,

to grieve with you in sorrow,

to grow with you in love,

and to be faithful to you alone,

for as long as we both shall live.

This is my promise to you.

Now, Charlotte, repeat after me:

I, Charlotte, take you Johnathan

to be my lawfully wedded husband.

I take you just as you are,

to laugh with you in joy,

to grieve with you in sorrow,

to grow with you in love,

and to be faithful to you alone,

for as long as we both shall live.

This is my promise to you.

Exchange of Rings

Wedding rings are enduring symbols of the eternal love, friendship, and faithfulness that you share. May these rings be for you always your most treasured adornment, and may the love they symbolize be your most treasured possession. May I have the rings, please?

            Best man to hand rings to Minister

May these rings be always a reminder of the vows you have spoken today.

Johnathan, take Charlotte’s ring, put it on the ring finger of her left hand, and repeat after me:

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

With this ring, I marry you, and I am honored to call you my wife.

Now Charlotte take Johnathan’s ring, put it on his left ring finger, and say these words:

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion.

With this ring, I marry you, and I am honored to call you my husband.

Closing Prayer

 Charlotte and Johnathan, as you embark upon your journey, we wish for you the kind of home that will be a sanctuary for you both. At the end of your lives, may you be able to look back and smile upon the life that you have shared together; pleased, satisfied, and fulfilled.

We hope for you to be proud of how well you loved, honored, and respected each other. How you weathered the storms that came your way, and kept your love alive with your openness and enthusiasm for one another. You hold each other’s hearts in the palms of your hands. Be gentle caregivers, honoring this trust. And if each of you takes responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and delight.

On behalf of myself and your family and friends, I would like to thank the two of you for lettings us share in your happiness today.

Pronouncement

Because you agree in your desire to go forward into life seeking a richer and ever deepening relationship; and because you have pledged yourselves to meet sorrow and joy as one family; I congratulate you, and declare that you are, now, husband and wife.

You may kiss your bride.

Presentation of married couple

Ladies and gentlemen, family and friends, it is my pleasure to present for the first time

Mr. and Mrs. Johnathan Miller

 

Here are some optional wedding Rituals to add to your ceremony.

Sand Ceremony

(Bride/Groom) and (Groom/Bride) now come forth to seal their relationship through the mixing of the sands. Just as two lives together now join to become one, so will the individual sands become one as they are poured. It would be impossible to separate these sands, just as it would be impossible to separate (Bride/Groom) and (Groom/Bride)’s lives after today. This promise is a relationship pledge between two people who love each other fully and who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives.

Wine Ceremony: Mixing Red wine with White

“To symbolize and celebrate the blending of your two lives into one, I invite you to perform the Wine Ceremony

You have just sealed your relationship by the giving and receiving of rings. This beautiful union is symbolized through the combining of these two individual glasses of wine. The glass  closest to Sarah represents who she is… her personality, individuality, values and all of her life experiences that have made her the woman she is today. The glass nearest Andrew represents who he is… his ideals, thoughts, passion and life trials that have made him that stands before you.

Each individual wine holds its own unique beauty, strength, and character. They can stand on their own and be whole, without need of anything else. However when these two are blended together they create a new and extraordinarily more intricate entity. Each glass of wine,  brings to the mixture a lasting beauty that forever enriches the combination.

Please pour the wines into this common carafe to symbolize the union of your two lives. Just as these wines can never be separated and poured again into the individual containers, so will your marriage be a molding of two individual personalities, bonded together forming one heart and one love. The life that each of you experienced individually, before this moment, will hereafter be inseparably united, for the two shall become one.